I have a compulsion to write on this topic today because my usually sensitive, loving son of 7 did not turn back to give me multiple byes and butterfly kisses at the school gate this morning. 😔 He was a little grouchy because his school bag was heavier than usual and he insisted that I “just take out one of the books inside”, which I obviously wouldn’t do so because we had already packed according to his school timetable and it doesn’t make sense to deliberately not bring stuff when you know you are supposed to bring, right?
Anyway, I went home feeling a little dejected (see where that sensitive soul of his came from. Lol!), but I tried to be rational about things and sort out my emotions by practising what I usually preach – shift my perspective, shift my perspective. I didn’t exactly did a mental flip laterally but figured how I could have done better to bring up good moments rather than grouchy vibes. Here’s a quick tip that never fail to trigger some of the best moments for us:
The use of Humour.
I love, love, love to use humour, loads of it that I suspect I might have gone overboard occasionally. Opps! But truth be told, kids love such things! I can’t say for sure for all adults because you know, adults sometimes do adult things like being serious and boring (some, not all. Lol!). But kids, they do kid things all the time like laughing!
And I love it when us as mommies throw a little curveball just to jibe them. Take an example, my 3 year old nephew who likes to deliberately wear his shoes the wrong way round just so his mom would correct him and say, “NO, WRONG!”. And on cue, he would start laughing away because he had managed to irk her. She thinks it’s pretty annoying but I think it’s funny! And so I threw her a challenge just to up the game – if it happens again, instead of a “NO, WRONG!”, Sis should really say, “OK, LET’S GO!”.
I’d love to see the look of surprise and confusion all rolled into that one cute face of little nephew. And I suspect that should throw up some giggles from him and then never again pulling a quick one on his mom. Win-win! 😁
(See here for another quick tip on what make kids tick!)